Being a mom can be full of so much joy and happiness. You know, you want to hold your little ones in your arms. You want to see what they look like. You want to create memories. You’re just so happy and excited to have them.
While all that is beautiful and important, there is also a lot we need to know before becoming a mom — and we need to be prepared for it. The journey of motherhood is definitely not a walk in the park. Trust me, it can be a whole lot.
So, join me as I take you through my personal experiences and 10 things I wish I knew before becoming a mom.
Now, let me begin by saying that being a mom is no walk in the park. And as a mom of two, I can boldly say I’ve seen it, been there. It’s not been easy, but definitely, with a lot of effort and preparation, we can all overcome it.
- Pregnancy Symptoms Can Be Severe
Okay, when you’re pregnant, it comes with a whole lot — from the minor symptoms like vomiting, spitting, and not having an appetite, to severe pains in your hips, waist, and legs. Sometimes, you can’t even walk and you might not be able to get up from bed or move around without help.
It can be a whole lot. You just have to be prepared for the symptoms. For some of us — like myself — my first pregnancy was smooth. I didn’t experience many symptoms or pains. I could literally jump up and down the whole place. But my second pregnancy? I could barely walk, trying to stand up was a struggle and I felt like falling at times. It was really tough. But like they say, every pregnancy is different.
- Breastfeeding and Postpartum Are Tough
Your breasts are swollen in the early stages ,they hurt and you’re leaking all over the place. Then, postpartum hits — and you’re looking at your body and you just can’t find yourself anymore.
You look so different because your clothes don’t fit anymore. Even your favorite dress makes you feel like someone else. You’re no longer happy with your body. And that’s a lot to deal with — emotionally, physically, mentally — especially when you have a little baby who needs your full attention.
- No Privacy, No Alone Time
There’s no such thing as “me time” anymore. It’s always you and your child. Wherever you’re going, whatever plans you’re making, you have to put them first.
Even if you have help or a great support system, in those early stages when your baby is still so tender, they need you first. Until they get to the age where they can play around and be a bit independent, your time isn’t your own. Even something as simple as going to the salon becomes a problem. It’s that bad.
- Everybody Is Looking Up to You
At one point or the other, it’s just you. Everyone’s looking for mommy. You do the dishes, you do the cooking. Even when you\’re not the one cooking, you\’re the one ordering the food. You have to serve the food. You may have to feed the baby.
While doing all that, it’s still “Mommy, I need this” and “Mommy, I need that.” It’s a lot. Being a mom is a lot. You have to always have it in the back of your mind that everybody will be looking up to you for something.
- Sleeping at Night Becomes a Luxury
Trust me, during the day the kids are all over the place — playing, running around, making noise. It takes a lot to keep them in check. Then at night? Baby wakes up crying. Sometimes, for no reason at all. Sometimes they just want to be held. Other times, they just don’t want to sleep.
You’ll find yourself staying awake with them — again and again. And it becomes hard to sleep like you used to. Even rest becomes a luxury.
- They Take Over Everything
As they grow older, they take over everything — your gadgets, your space, your peace.
They take your phone. You can’t watch your favorite shows. You get up from your seat to grab something and next minute, they’re in your seat — and they won’t even want to stand up. 😅
- Being a Mom Comes With a Lot of Shouting
Nobody had to tell me because experienced it firsthand.
You can literally wake up in the morning shouting:
“Go and brush your teeth!”
“Make your bed!”
“Come and eat!”
“Stop smashing things!”
“Don’t jump on the couch!”
It’s a lot of talking, shouting, and repeating yourself. Because honestly? Kids don’t really listen with their ears. You find yourself raising your voice more than you ever imagined.
- You May Not Always Like Your Kids
Yes, I said it. You may not always like your kids. You love them — absolutely. But sometimes, they’re a handful.
From breaking things to messing up the house, to saying things like, “I don’t want to be your friend.” And you just want to scream, “Well, I’m your mom — not your friend!” 😂
- You May Lose Your Zeal for Work or Career
I personally lost the drive to chase my dreams for a while and It took a lot from my spouse to get me back in order. It’s not always easy, because now you have a lot to deal with. But believe me, you are not alone.
Be strong. Don’t lose yourself in motherhood. When you lose yourself, you stop doing the things that make you happy. And guess what? A sad mom cannot raise happy kids — and you don’t want that reflection on your children.
- Being a Mom Takes Serious Preparation
Don’t hesitate to ask for help and get the right support system. Be surrounded by people who can show up for you. That’s why I always encourage other mothers — speak up, Seek helpand Build a support system.
And if you can, reach out to a community — a group of other moms you can talk to, learn from, cry with, and grow with. You’re not the first, and you won’t be the last, but we’re all hoping you’ll be the best version of YOU — for yourself, and for your kids.
In Conclusion…
Keep up with us as we share more information, motivation, and encouragement to ease your motherhood journey. And don’t forget to check out our tips at the end of every post — they’ll help you do things better with a lot less stress.
With love and threads,
Vee 💕
Bonus Tip:
Is your shoe becoming tight and uncomfortable when you put it on, but you don’t have someone to give it to—or the budget for a new one yet?
Get a pair of socks or an old cloth and stuff it into the shoe. Leave it for a day or two.
Thank me later for the results! 😉
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